Consciously Design My Life

In a few weeks I am Training in 'Life Quality and Design'.  What I love about my Coaching Course is that it offers me the opportunity to learn and grow and undertake the Processes which may help my Clients on their Journey.

I love the Ideal Scene Activity which allows me to Consciously Design My Life.  It is essentially based on the question "What do you want?"  The key in this opportunity is to talk to from a place of I Am...talking from a position of the Future Self.

Romance and Family

- I am Married to my Man - we are in love - we are active in loving and supporting each other

- We have 2 beautiful, healthy Children who bring us so much joy

- Spending time together and with our Children are our Priorities

Family and Friends

- We spend time with our Family on a weekly basis 

- My Mum and Dad and my Man's Mum enjoy time with our children

- We always welcome Family and Friends to our home

Community

- We make it a Priority to be involved in Community, to give our time and financial support

- We support 4 children in overseas Countries - 1 child for each Member of our Family

- We donate money to Communities living in poverty

- We are also part of a Church Community and Neighbourhood Community

Physical Environment

- We live in a 4 bedroom home - we love our home

- Our home is close to the beach, where we regularly visit the ocean

- I have an outdoor Space - which offers 2 areas - an area for Coaching and Meditation - and an area for Creation - which paints and colouring crayons, textas and pencils and art paper and symbols and sand play and images - a place for my Family, Friends, Children and Coaching Clients

- The outdoor rooms are in a Cottage space with a beautiful outdoor area for drinking cups of tea and reading books

- We also have another undercover outdoor area where we regularly sit with our Family and enjoy time together

- My home is organised and uncluttered - I make time every day to be organised (I have a timetable for my housework and shopping) and there is space for everything - there is space in the bookshelves for new books and my cupboards are so organised with my clothes and study organised and in order
- My home is always neat and tidy and I am not concerned if Family, Friends, Neighbours come over at anytime

- Once a year we have a Springclean and have a garage sale and give to those less fortunate - clothes, toys, books - whatever we no longer need

Health

- We eat healthy food, including organic fruit and vegetables
- I eat fish once a week and sometimes organic meat and I am very conscious of eating animals
- I love cooking healthy food and healthy treats for my Family and I believe in Balance and I enjoy chocolate and treats guilt-free (on the weekends)

- I love walking for fitness - I walk 4-5 times/ week
- I love being back to running, now that I have had children, and I am trusting how my body feels

- I love Yoga - I go to a Yoga class at least twice a week

- I allow myself time to rest from exercise guilt-free

- We walk as a Family

- We enjoy Bushwalks

- Sleep is a Priority - 7 to 8 hours a night

- Meditation is a Priority - 30 minutes/ day and also Meditating with my Husband and Children

- I am in good shape and feel happy with my physical being
- I love my clothes, I dress for myself, I enjoy my style - and my clothes are very organised in my wardrobe

Career

- I have a successful Coaching Business - I love being a Coach - I work with 10-15 Clients/ week

- I feel confident being a Coach - I feel I offer a Sacred Space - an opportunity for Process and Action

- I feel confident working with Clients to help them achieve their Goals and help them experience Peace and Happiness and Self-Love

- I work solely for myself - I do go in and work for Businesses - but on a daily or contract basis

- I am able to work hard through the year and also have time off when my Man has holidays from school

- I work one on one with Clients and also run weekly, monthly and quarterly Groups

- Meditation and Transpersonal Tools and Techniques, helping people get in touch with their Unconscious, is a major part of my work

- I am a Professional Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation

- I attend the Yearly ICF Conference

- I also have a Business Spread The Yellow which specialises in the sales of Products and also has Motivational Seminars for Schools and Business encouraging Connection and Consciously Choosing to help Make A Difference for others

Self-Development

- As a Successful Coach, I attend at least 1 or 2 Seminars or Training Workshops per year to keep learning and broadening my Professional Capabilities - including Shadow Work, Archetypes, Dreamwork, Shadow work, Sand Play, Art Therapy

- Every week I make time to read Blogs and Articles on the Internet to continually broaden my understanding to help my Clients

- Every month I read at least one new Self-Development Book - I run a Women's Bookclub

- I Journal and Blog regularly and make time for Self-Reflection - monitoring my Shadow, my Yin/Yang, my Archetypes 

Fun and Recreation

- We make it a Priority to spend time outdoors and in nature together as a Family

- At home we enjoy sitting together for dinner every night and we love playing board games and having a laugh together

- We take adventures together - day trips - to see new and exciting destinations and favourite places and we enjoy the simple and beautiful places and delights in life

- My Man and I enjoy a date night at least once a month - just the two of us

- Every year on our Anniversary we enjoy a night away to honour our Love

- At least once a month I gather with female friends for movie, dinner, afternoon or morning tea

Financial

- We are financially organised - we have a budget that allows room and freedom for flexibility

- We have a savings plan that allows us to travel once a year interstate and every few years travelling internationally

- My Superannuation is organised

- Our Wills are up-to-date

- We have money to shout Family and Friends to lunch, dinner, activities
- We are active in contributing to Charity 

Creative Expression

- Music and Dance is a big part of our household

- Most nights we put music on (rather than the TV) and we Dance and have fun together

- We make time for Art - there is always paints and textas and crayons and pencils and artpaper on hand

- We enjoy having a Garden and growing our own herbs and beautiful, fragrant flowers

- We write love letters and notes to each other 

- We openly express our feelings and acknowledge feelings in each other and make it okay to be real

I love that I can see a clear Vision for My Future and I love being in Meditation with these hopes and dreams within my Heart.  As I Consciously Design My Life in my Mind's Eye through Meditation, I feel Excited and Inspired to take ACTION.  I have a strong sense I need to bring in more Yang into my life to balance out my Yin - more Yang, more doing.  And having Balance and relaxation and making time to be in Nature is also very important.

I love that I can use Meditation and Coaching Tools and Techniques to help me on my Journey where I can Coach myself.  And I also recognise the Power of the Coaching Relationship and so I love that I am currently working with my own Life Coach to help me Consciously Design My Life today and every day and as I look towards a wonderful and bright Future.

By taking the time to Consciously Design My Life I have also activated the Law Of Attraction and also the Reticular Activating System in my Brain to find solutions and answers and present opportunities and possibilities to help me move closer to this Dream for my Life.

By just taking this time to see a Clear Vision for my Future I feel lighter and brighter and full of love and light and life.

As I have included a list for each Area of my Life, which is presenting an Ideal Scenario for me, I can also Consciously Choose to take ACTION NOW and make this Dream a REALITY.

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Celebrating Uniqueness

One of my favourite parts of being a Coach is recognising and Celebrating Uniqueness - hearing what makes my Clients Excited and helping them express their Unique Gifts in the world.

It has been wonderful at College the last few weeks - although we have all been studying the same Course, we all have a sense of our own Unique Purpose - how exciting to hear what Excites and Inspires different people.  How wonderful to see people in touch with what makes them SHINE, and so Excited to share their Gifts.  I loved last week hearing about my friend Christie who is so passionate about nutrition and so talented in her raw food creations - she is truly amazing!! And another woman from College is so passionate about Wellness and helping people in the area of Health.

And as I watch 'X-Factor' tonight, it is clear that Altiyan Childs is definitely expressing his Uniqueness - he started his first band when he was 12 and is currently a forklift driver and had almost given up his dream of becoming a musician.  He has a Gift.

We all have a Gift.

However, from the time we start school we are taught to fit in, wearing our uniforms, learning the rules, learning all of the subjects that will make us "successful".  Through school and inparticular through our teenage years, we try to be like everyone else - to "fit in".  We feel the pressure of friends, parents, society.  And in doing so this can often be the undoing of our self-esteem and confidence as we move away from being true to ourselves.
  

Then we have to make a decision what to do after school, or find ourselves in a job that does not make us happy, or find ourselves redundant or returning to the workforce and trying to work out what to do.  Not to mention experiencing financial pressures and sometimes making Choices, that we feel we have to make, to pay the bills or "pull the sled" for the family.

And there is the stress of working out what to do and how to make this possible.  This is where a Life Coach can help in Celebrating Uniqueness and putting your Dreams into Action.

My belief is that we are all here for a reason, that we have a Life Purpose, a Calling.  I love the part in 'Wishcraft' Barbara Sher - Imagine that Your Gifted Child Within You was...
- Treated as though You had a unique kind of genius that was loved and respected...
- Told that You could do and be anything you wanted...
- Told that You would be loved and admired no matter what it was...
- Given real help and encouragement in finding out what You wanted to do and how to do it...
- Encouraged to explore all Your own talents and interests, even if they changed from day to day...
- Allowed to complain when the going got rough, and given sympathy instead of being told to quit...
- Surrounded by Winners who were pleased when You won.

WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD BE DOING NOW?
WHAT WOULD YOU ALREADY HAVE DONE?
WHAT KIND OF PERSON WOULD YOU BE?

As a Life Coach I love Celebrating Uniqueness, Celebrating a Client's Greatness.  Some of the areas and questions include:

- Who Are You? 

- Highlights from the Past - asking such questions as "Recall times when you have so absorbed in what you were doing that you hardly noticed the time.  What were you doing?'

- Highlighting Your Passions - "What makes your heart sing?', What do you enjoy doing when you're not working? - Also - What exciting topic (s) would keep you talking late into the night?"

- Changing the World - "If you could share one bit of wisdom with the whole world, what would it be?", "Imagine yourself at the end of your life looking back - is there a dream in you of serving or helping others or making a positive difference in a certain area?"

Some of my favourite questions are:

- "If you were financially independent and money was not a factor, what kind of work would you do?"

- "If you could wave a magic wand and know you could not fail, what would you do?"

Coaching can offer you a chance to find a Career that has Heart and Meaning for you with the opportunity to look at your Special Qualities, your Talents, your Passions.  Coaching also offers you the opportunity to take steps to express your Purpose.

If you would like to wake up feeling Excited that you are living your life on Purpose, please call Kath, SHINE Coaching 0416 285 687.

You may be a school leaver, trying to work out what to do next... or you may have been recently made redundant or a Mum returning to the workforce... or perhaps you are unhappy in your job and finding it hard to be motivated day in and day out.

THINK BIG!!!  LOVE YOUR LIFE!!!  EXPRESS THE TRUE YOU IN THE WORLD!!!

* And I would like to dedicate this to my friend Julie who has ALWAYS been an Inspiration to me and is living her Life Purpose, stepping into a new Career that she loves - Congratulations Juls x

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Responsibility To Self-Develop

It has been a BIG few days.  Friday, Saturday and Sunday I was at College, another weekend of learning and transformation.  After spending so much time learning about the Power and Gifts and Strengths and Resources of my Yin and Yang, I have been learning more about Archetypes and learning to recognise and work with them in Coaching.

I love learning, for myself and my own self-development - I love all of the information that I receive from College and I also love looking up some more information to extend my understanding.  I have a Responsibility To Self-Develop.

I find a great summary of the Archetypes - that represent the Parts within us -
- http://www.educ.sfu.ca/mamchur/Archetypes.html

"* Ego Archetypes - Developing Our Relationship to the World, Developing Ourselves
- Innocent - Source of innocence and optimism; thinks all is good
- Orphan/ Everyperson - Feels alone and abandoned, then discovers the universe and becomes the Everyman: the part that longs to belong
- Caregiver - Nurtures and cares for others, protects self when needed
- Warrior/Hero - Makes goals, fights for the self, saves the day

* Soul Archetypes - Soul's Journey, Intimacy, Personal Identity
- Seeker/Explorer - Source of satisfaction: wants an end to the feeling of unrest; yearns

- Rebel/Destroyer - Source of strength: eliminates junk in self and society
- Lover - Source of forgiveness: searches for that which is sublime
- Creator - Offers Identity, answers what kind of life one wants to create

* Self Archetypes - How We Can Bring Our Best Selves Into the World
- Ruler - Claims own power for good or ill; wants to bring order to chaos

- Sage - Attains wisdom, seeks truth, handles ambiguity; matches methods to task at hand
- Magician/Trickster - Enables you to fulfil your dreams; combination of creator and destroyer
- Jester - Enjoys life and speaks the truth; lives in the in-between."

After spending time recognising my Yin and Yang within me and how to bring them into their power - my new area for Self-Reflection is to see the Archetypes within me and how they play out in my life, and how they can help me grow.

There are certain points that are recommended to be helpful in an Evening Review:

1. Which different Sub-Personalities were predominant at different times during this day?  What circumstances (inner or outer) made them emerge or withdraw?  Where there any conflicts between them?

2. What were the valuable qualities and what were the limitations outstanding in each Sub-Personality?  How did each help me or get in my way?
3. What did each want?  What would I like my life to be if it could have fully its own way?

4. Were my Sub-Personalities in harmony with what I wanted to do, or did I have to go along with them?  What part did I take in harmonising and directing them?

I decide to just look at my day and how I am feeling and thinking in relation to what I have learnt over the weekend - and see what emerges from my story.

This morning I choose to sleep in - I feel myself in CAREGIVER - happy to enjoy a lie in with my Man - I loved the extra sleep in.  There was no conflict here - I did not feel any other Archetypes come into play - I just loved the extra sleep.  I had woken up early this morning at around 4am, scared when I had a nightmare that a magpie was swooping to attack me - once, twice and then the third time as the magpie was about to hit me, I woke up hitting myself on the head.  So I am very happy to have a sleep in.

I do enjoy practicing an Active Imagination Exercise where I bring in this image of me preparing to be hit by the magpie and I have a sense of a WARRIOR Part to me, about to fight for myself, save me.  Hmm... interesting.  I do feel that I need to strengthen this Warrior Part in me - perhaps this is the message from my Soul speaking to me in my Dream.  I read about the Warrior in 'Sacred Contracts' by Caroline Myss - "Warrior - The Warrior Archetype represent physical strength and the ability to protect, defend, and fight for one's rights."

Over the weekend I have become aware that I am strong in my INNOCENT Archetype.  I read about this Archetype in 'Sacred Contracts' by Caroline Myss - "Child: Magical/ Innocent - The Magical Child represents the part of us that is both enchanted and enchanting to others.  It sees the potential for sacred beauty in all things."  The Fairytale that rings true for me is 'Little Red Riding Hood' - there is much in this for me in terms of the Innocent Archetype and the Wolf (Self-Critic).

I read the Fairytale "But when Little Red Riding Hood noticed some lovely flowers in the woods, she forgot her promise to her mother.  She picked a few, watched the butterflies flit about for awhile, listened to the frogs croaking and then picked a few more.  Little Red Riding Hood was enjoying the warm summer day so much, that she didn't notice a dark shadow approaching out of the forest behind her..."

Today I recognise the Innocent in me and that this can bring up the Wolf -  it happened over the weekend - the Wolf in others, very much the Wolf in myself - and today, just in very brief moments and misunderstandings, with my Man.  I can get Excited and enthusiastic and this can cause a reaction in my Man and then for a brief moment I feel myself being oversensitive and I feel myself shrink, just for a moment.  It is interesting in learning to look at these moment to moment interactions and reactions from a perspective of the different Parts of self.  I feel that there is something here for me - perhaps strengthening my Warrior to protect my Innocent - perhaps looking at my ways of communicating and my reacting to reactions (in my internal and external world).

I am Grateful for all that I am learning - and I love all my learning - and yet it does change everything - there is this new Awareness and Consciousness and I feel the Responsibility To Self-Develop.  My Mentor was talking about the importance of Self-Reflection and the importance of using this opportunity to Coach ourselves, which involves using this Awareness for changes.

I feel that the LOVER Archetype is one that is very relevant for me right now.  Over the weekend, I realised that it was a year ago that I ended a significant relationship that involved a lot of heartbreak.  I am so Grateful that I am now in a loving and healthy relationship.  And I am also realising that I may have let go of parts of myself or be protecting myself - I am not sure what is here, or what this is about - and yet I feel that this is an area to work on with my own Coach.  I also have a sense that my body is holding stress and tension - my sore back and neck - what is that about for me - I have a feeling that I am storing emotions. 

I read about the LOVER on this website
- http://www.educ.sfu.ca/mamchur/archetypelover.html

"Through the Lover archetype, we become aware of what MOVES us - in a sense, what calls to us on a deeper level."  Today I feel in the Lover Archetype and I love spending the day with my Man, holding hands and kissing and spending together.  I also love recognising beauty and trying on, and buying, beautiful tops made with beautiful materials - actually they are skirts and can be tops or dresses - there are 100 ways to wear them.

I just love looking at all the colours and clothing and jewellery and hair accessories.  It is interesting as I am not a Shopper and yet today I love just looking around at the Markets.  We also buy a Salsa Dancing DVD and I am Excited about dancing together.  I just have this desire to dance - I love music and dancing and want more in my life.

I also meet a lady who may be able to help in supplying some paper for an idea that I am looking to develop for my work as a Coach and as a product idea to sell.  In this instant I feel the CREATOR Archetype in me quite excited by the possibilities.  I love reading about the CREATOR Archetype "The artist, writer, poet tpes the maker of dreams, the inventor that discovers new ways of making new things and of unfolding new dreams.  The Creator Sub-Personality will assist you in making your life less stale, more flowing in conveying your ideas to others, contributing to the collective dreams of humanity."  I am Excited that I am definitely in touch with my Creator Archetype - NOW THAT'S EXCITING...

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